Once more I find myself in an airport in Ireland glass of wine in hand….
I returned home from Ireland late last Thursday and was back off again on Monday. I really ‘tried’ to bring the angel with me but the devil threw her under a taxi at the airport! And there is the key word ‘tried’. In the words of Yoda ‘there is no try there is only do‘. This is something that I have trained out for years when training trainers and it’s something that my leader brought up a few months ago. Who has been in a training course and the trainer has said ‘hopefully we will try to do XYZ’? Has it made you feel ‘hopeful’ that it’s going to be achieved?? There’s another word isn’t there-hopefully. Hopefully I will lose weight this week/get on plan etc. Why ‘hopefully’? Let’s try something out:
Say to yourself ‘hopefully I will try to lose weight this week’ how does that make you feel? Confident that you will achieve your goal?
Now how about ‘I will do something about my weight and lose weight this week!’ I know which one I prefer!
It’s not just our actions but our words that can have a positive/detrimental effect on us. Another one is ‘should’. How do you feel when someone says ‘you should have done it like this’ how about ‘I should get a grip on my eating?’ I’m guilty of using this all the time which in turn makes me feel guilty for not doing what I ‘should’ have done! I never use the word should with my delegates yet beat myself all the time with it. There’s another one ‘never’. Never as with should brings too much pressure then when we fail we feel bad and drown in a vat of wine or eat our body weight in food.
There is a great book called Drop The Pink Elephant by Bill McFarlan (I have been very lucky to meet Bill and I was quite star struck as his book had a huge impact on me). There are many things to take from the book the main one being about the pink elephant. If someone says to you ‘don’t think of a pink elephant’ what’s the first thing we are likely to think of?? A pink elephant!
This is what happens when I say ‘don’t think about the cheese/chocolate/wine’ (take your pick) then you fixate on it until it becomes so unbearable you dive straight in. Let’s stop making life even more difficult for ourselves-we have a big enough battle on our hands as it is without making it even harder.
There are many quotes and mantras that you can take guidance from. There’s Yoda as mentioned above or Henry Ford (in case you don’t know who he is the clue is in his surname) 🙂 who said
‘If you always do what you always did then you will get what you always got’.
Walt Disney- ‘The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing’. There’s that word again!
My favourite person for quotes is Dr Seuss who said ‘you have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go’.
There are many out there and we all take inspiration and motivation from different things these are just some of my favourites
So it’s time to stop trying and talking and start doing so we change what we do which will give us a different result and steer ourselves where we want to go!
And whatever you do don’t think of a pink elephant-especially if its eating cake and drinking!